Imperfection, Mistakes and Wedding Day Blunders

I’m so glad the photographers captured this moment when Sarah's dad almost went to his seat without giving hugs and handshakes.

Love & Perry Photography and Films

​See all those smiles?

As much as you plan and prepare and practice, when your wedding day arrives it’s time to let go of the idea that everything will be perfect.

Actually, those "imperfect," real life moments are the best. They’re how we know we are awake, present...

...​that this day is REALLY and finally happening...to US!

​​​Sometimes those moments simply recede into the background of a fantastic day, and sometimes they’re the ones we remember most.

It is those unplanned moments that can startle us into dropping our scripts, our carefully ordered expectations, and come fully into ourselves—into the now. 

On one of the most important and anticipated days of our entire lives, they pull back the curtain on the stage set and show us our regular, common humanity (which is where all the good stuff is anyway!).

So don’t be afraid of imperfection, of mistakes and wedding day blunders. Embrace them, even, as treasures—as a precious reminder of what it is to be really, fully alive...especially on your wedding day.

Postscript...

One of my 2015 brides commented on my Instagram post about wedding “imperfections,” sharing: My favorite photo of our wedding is the one snapped right when the electricity came back on mid-ceremony.

That’s right, folks! It was a blustery November day at the beautiful Kemble Inn in Lenox, Renée and Jay radiant in their togetherness, me sharing the story of their love...when—aaaahhhhhhh—the power goes out.

But you know what? It was great. We were all like kids, sort of giddy and excited (okay, we’re off-script!) and suddenly more HERE & NOW than before.

 My bride wrote that it was perfectly imperfect, much like life.

​Yes, indeed...just the way a wedding should be.