Isn’t this how you’d like to feel on your wedding day? So much of this feeling comes from creating the day YOU want.
These two were planning a big autumn celebration with their friends and family in Texas, but what they really wanted was to exchange their wedding vows in a private springtime ceremony at the Smith College gardens.
We had the most magical time together, just the three of us. It was so intimate and so special... I really don’t know how anyone could think it was any less “valid” than a typical wedding ceremony.
I’m working with a couple now who’s planning a private wedding ceremony just before a reception with all their guests. Their families have been very vocal in sharing their disapproval...so much so that the bride recently said to me, “I’m sick of hating my wedding.” Ouch.
We can’t control our families. But we can not let them control us. You see, planning a wedding is also the beginning of a new set of boundaries: the limits and protections of your new union. Every couple will go through this process over time, but wedding planning is the accelerated course!
Whatever kind of wedding you’re planning, now is the time for the two of you—with clarity and kindness—to be you, do you and choose you. The wedding is the establishment of your marriage in more ways than one, so build it the way you want, and always always always choose each other.
Poetry and Musings of an Interfaith Minister on the Journey of a Lifetime.